How To Spot Polarity in Astrology Compatibility
Men are from Mars, women are from Venus
Recently I’ve been learning more about relationship dynamics outside of astrology - and what relationship counsellors, coaches, and psychologists have to say about what makes for a successful relationship.
I do this so I can gain a more holistic approach, but it always surprises and excites me how what they say is so closely linked to astrology, just explained in a slightly different way.
Or maybe astrology is the alternate version, either way, a lot of the differences are just in how it’s explained, rather than what the message is.
I’m reading ‘Beyond Mars and Venus’, a book by John Gray. You may have heard of his best seller ‘Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus’, which is a book I love not only because of the planet metaphors, but also because of the valuable information on sustaining a relationship.
‘Beyond Mars and Venus’ is a book I highly recommend because it takes a look not only at the fundamental differences of how men and women love differently, but also adapts to the modern day world where men are more free to explore their feminine sides, and women are more free to explore their masculine sides.
I haven’t finished the whole book yet, but there was a certain part at the beginning that really stuck out to me, and gave me a type of eureka moment that has altered and deepened my understanding of compatibility in astrology.
The book reads (paraphrased):
“It is a man’s masculine qualities, when expressed in a way that supports the expression of a woman’s female qualities, that excite and awaken her romantic feelings. The growing expression of a man’s female qualities allows him to express his male side in a way that supports a woman more. But unless he combines the expression of these female qualities with the full expression of his male side, she may love him, but she will not be attracted to him.”
If you follow me on Instagram, you will know I primarily judge compatibility based on 4 things:
Connection
Communication
Values
Chemistry
But I’ve realised a better and more accurate word for ‘chemistry’ (which I will use going forward) is ‘polarity’.